Hilco has released one song in January with Jay Jay Cee and another one in July. The one with JJC is titled “Chaka Chino” while her solo song is titled “Undikwatire” . All these songs have one message “I want to be married”. Looking at these songs with keen interest one can deduce the crisis in Hilco’s mind.
Is either Hilco is struggling to be married (If not already) or she is presenting the status of many girls and women who have been made to look at marriage as the greatest achievement in life hence they have to look for it by all means.
The first song “Chaka chino” Hilco is conversing with JJC who plays a role of a boyfriend who is delaying the marriage and is assuring the female character voiced by Hilco that he will marry her. The male character is at peace and is not in a hurry to get married but the opposite colour is at the female character.
The female character looks desperate to be married and we know why. The female character sings, “chaka chino chokha undikwatire” . This statement reflects the level of anxiety in the woman. She just need to be married. Mukwatire iwe.
In the second verse, the female character claims, “Anthu akundinena ati nzafa ndiumbeta” . From the snapped lines one can see the issues being presented by the female voice which I assume is not coming from deep down Hilco’s heart. The character presents the popular software of marriage that has been installed in many females to the extent that they run mad just to be married.
In her solo song too, the male character is not under any gravity to marry “her” for obvious reasons. However, the female character is complaining. “Zondiika pa hold zi , Ndikakamba za banja, ndimadandaula mwezi ndi Mwezi . Zaka 11 tili pa chibwezi, Mamuna wanji osakamba za siliyasi”. She continues to say “NDIKWATIRE Nzikataya mazi” (Marry me to be your house wife). This statement is demeaning to empowered women of this century.
The praising of the domestication of women is what many are fighting because it has made women’s brains docile for years since many have been made to think like this. It is scary that in this New Malawi wa TONSE someone a female for that matter is advancing these outdated ideas. This thinking was also demonstrated in Lucius Banda’s “Zakukhosi” and you know what Jessie Kabwira did to the song based on the assertion “Uzikataya nkhoko ku nyumba kwanga”.
Some lines also show desperation of the highest order, “Ndikwatire ntima ukhale pasi…, Bea Tandikwatire, Mpaka Liti?”. This desperation can be attributed to what society has planted in many females who have decided not to question popular thinking on marriage. As Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie argued, “Because I am female, I’m expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Marriage can be a good thing, a source of joy, love, and mutual support. But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage, but we don’t teach boys to do the same? “.
The above quote questions popular thinking on marriage, Adichie’s observation is imperative to this generation of empowered women and girls. Why has society decided to make marriage important to females only? The answer is simple, to control the female mind. Patriarchy was designed to control women and marriage is one of the ways. If marriage was indeed an achievement then society could have made this known to both sexes. The fact that it is only pressured on women, it is a clear sign of “mind control”. Ask why males are made to believe that making money is important in this life. If you find the reason then go to the next paragraph.
Besides, this thinking of saying a woman or a girl cannot have her own house alone and be happy should be dismissed with cost by constitutional court judges. Women, as presented in the song, have been made to believe that for one to be successful you need a man at home, yet a man can be successful single at home. “Nane ndimafuna nditakhala ndi nyumba yanga , yanga. Anakuuza ndani kuti sungakhale nayo wekha?
The cry of the female character in the song desperately for marriage is a product of inherited thinking. Some girls and women like this Hilco have been made to believe that at some point in time you need to be married by all means. “Chaka chino chokha”. Some even mention age ranges for women and girls to be married. This whole thing is just made to control the brains of women. As argued by Nigerian feminist Adichie , “Our society teaches a woman at a certain age who is unmarried to see it as a deep personal failure. While a man at a certain age who is unmarried has not quite come around to making his pick……We internalize ideas from our socialization”.
While the songs might be Hilco speaking her issues, it should be noted that Hilco might be playing her role as an artist as argued by Ngugi wa Thiong’o in his definition of an artist. According to Ngugi wa Thiong’o (1938) an artist, “responds, with his total personality, to a social environment which changes all the time. Being a kind of sensitive needle, he registers, with varying degrees of accuracy and success, the conflicts and tensions in his changing society” (Homecoming, 47). For the society to progress the vital institution is marriage, but why has society pressured women like this? Is it indeed an all-time achievement to be married? Wash your hands frequently with soap or sanitize. Stay safe. COVID 19 is real.
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